Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Sex: To Be Known on a Deeper Level

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame Genesis 2:25
"I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid" Genesis 3:10
"Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from" Genesis 3:11

This semester in prison we ventured into a topic that we felt ill-equipped and quite apprehensive to handle: SEX.  However the more we tried to ignore it, the more questions we were receiving from the women.  The extra challenging piece to the story is that most of the women that we work with are sex workers.  Not only were they sex workers, most of them have a history of sexual abuse. My fear has always been not to open up Pandora's box without the tools to help them deal with what comes out.  So we prayed and came up with a six weeks lesson on Sex: to be known on a deeper level

When we first started the lessons, the mention of the word sex would have the ladies giggle like middle school girls.  They could not get the image of what they know of sex out of their minds to embrace a new definition.  We repeated over and over again; the point of sex is to be known on a deeper level; this is not a knowing that can happen over night but this kind of knowing takes time, commitment and it is reciprocal. That first week, we received question after question because the ladies were trying hard to understand how does this "deeper knowing" work? We dove into scriptures giving them some basic foundations; we discussed what being "naked and unashamed" meant.  Man these women had some great insights.  We talked about physical and emotional nakedness.  The more questions they asked, the more you can tell they were buying into God's plan for his children in the context of sex, relationships and going deeper. 

We offered examples of biblical characters who modeled those kinds of deeper knowing intimate relationships; Adam and Eve, Ruth and Naomi, David and Jonathan, God and Moses.  The more I opened up the box of the variety of intimate relationships God desires for his children, the more comfortable they felt with the topic and the teenage giggles lessened. 

Then we moved on to how sin tainted that beautiful plan God had for his children as they engage in relationships, intimacy and sex.  Instead of being naked and unashamed, we became naked and instant shame pervaded.  We looked at the account of the original sin with Adam and Eve and compared it to how we respond now when we sin.  The women were ticked off by how original sin overhauled God's plan for humanity.  They knew far too well how the affects of sin destroyed relationships and intimacy.

Last night, we discussed the sin of rape.  We anticipated for it to be a hard night for the ladies and us leaders.  And as expected, it was hard to hear the many stories of many accounts of rape and the complete dehumanization of God's daughters for selfish pleasures.

We went over the staggering statistics of rape in the US:
  • A woman's chance of being raped in the U.S.: 1 in 5
  • 54% percent of rape crimes are never reported to the police
  • Percentage of rapists who are never incarcerated: 97 percent
  •  A woman's chance of being raped in college: 1 in 4 or 5
  • Every 2 minutes someone is raped in the US
  •  2/3 of assaults are committed by someone the victim knows
  • 44% of the victims are under the age of 18
  • 38% of rapists are a friend or an acquaintance
One woman raised her hand and said "do you know why many of us don't report when we're sexually assaulted?  Because who will believe a prostitute?  If we report rape, they will get us on other charges".
I don' know about you but when I hear things like this, I'm instantly enraged and disgusted by a system that would not do whatever it takes to make sure all of its citizens are safe .  The cycle of sexual sin seems to continue to follow these women. 
There has to be some Good News in all of this chaos.   
Our last lesson, which will be taught in a couple of weeks, will focus on redemption, how Christ's sacrifice gave us an opportunity to go back to Eden and unashamedly regain dignity over our bodies, intimacy and sex.  That is why Christ came: to turn this mother around. We were created to be known on a deeper level where we can be naked and unashamed both physically and emotionally.

1 comment:

  1. keep fighting the good fight on behalf of the hurting in search of healing, Dieula. God.Here. using you :)